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Sorority Recruitment

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August has been a crazy month:  moving my family into their new house, moving into my sorority, sorority recruitment, and starting my new classes.  I want to make this blog post about sorority recruitment because it is such a fun, stressful, crazy, awesome, tiring, and confusing process that a lot of people don’t know much about.  I will first explain the process and then I’ll share some of my tips for any readers who are going to go or are going through the “rush” process!

THE PROCESS:

At my University there are freshman, sophomores, and some juniors that apply to go through recruitment.  This year we had over 1,100 girls apply {so awesome!}.  Monday through Friday is the rush week and then Saturday is bid day.  Here is a breakdown of each day:

M O N D A Y:  This is the first day of recruitment. The girls going through recruitment spend 20 minutes at each house {and they visit about 8 houses}.  It is such a short time so you spend most of it just getting to talk to girls about where they’re from, their major, etc.  This day is fairly casual:  you wear the shirts they provide you with, shorts or skirts, and for shoes you can wear flats, sandals, sperrys, etc.

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T U E S D A Y:  This day is exactly like Monday – you visit the last set of houses for 20 minutes each.

W E D N E S D A Y: At our college, Wednesday is Philanthropy day.  The girls spend 30 minutes at each house {you can see up to 10 sororities} and you get to learn more about their philanthropies.  At Alpha Xi Delta, our philanthropy is Autism Speaks.  If you would like to learn more about Autism Speaks you can click here.  This day is considered semi casual {so sundress, skirts, pants, nice shirt, and flats or sandals}.

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T H U R S D A Y:  This day is house tours {one of my favorite days!}.  This is where you get to see and learn more about each chapter’s house – you spend 50 minutes at each house {visit a maximum of 6 houses}.  This day is a step up from Wednesday {sundresses, skirts, pant outfit, and flats, sandals, or kitten heels}.

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F R I D A Y:  This is the last day of the week and is also one of my favorites.  This is where you really get to see if you can picture yourself in that sorority.  It gets more personal and each house really shows you meaningful things to them.  It is also an emotional day for those in the sorority, it is the last time for the seniors to recruit and they share personal testimonials.  Each party last 60 minutes and you visit a maximum of 3 houses.  This day is the fanciest of them all {a nice dress and comfortable heels}.

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B I D  D A Y:  THE DAY WHERE YOU FIND YOUR HOME AWAY FROM HOME.  It is one of the most fun days of your college experience {and you probably won’t realize it right away}.  The anxiousness of opening up your bid card to read which greek letters you will be wearing for the rest of your days and running to your new home with people waiting with open arms.  I get goose bumps just thinking about it {my gosh i’m starting to sound so “srat”}.  It may seem kind of awkward {which it can be sometimes}, but it was a blast getting to know new sisters and bond.  We went to the lake and had yummy food and just got to relax and get to know each other.

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MY TESTIMONIAL:

I’m going to start out by being completely honest with you all.  The summer going into my freshman year of college I was completely against sororities {I really mean it}.  This is what I thought of sororities:  you had to look like a barbie, you had to be rich, you had to have all the best clothes, and you had to like to party, oh and you probably had to be bitchy.  I was the first person in my family to go greek, so I truly had no idea what to expect.  Let me be the billionth person to tell you how wrong I was.  Now I can’t lie, there are some sororities out there that do have that reputation and that is somewhat true.  BUT, there are also some amazing sororities out there that beat those stereotypes, and Alpha Xi Delta is one of them {shameless plug inserted here}.

I am so incredibly thankful for stepping out of my comfort zone and going through recruitment last year {thank you mom and dad for encouraging me}.    Being a part of Alpha Xi has made me more involved on campus, it has taught me how to be more giving {both with friends and with the community}, it has given me a home away from home, I have found girls that will be my bridesmaids someday, and it has made me grow as a person.  This all sounds so cliche but it is so truthful.

I love how if I ever want to do anything there is always someone around {whether that be going out and having a blast taking pics and getting ready, or staying in and lounging around watching movies}.  Alpha Xi has also offered me wonderful opportunities where I have received a scholarship and many girls have gotten internships and jobs thanks to our sorority.

You can read more about why I love Alpha Xi here.

MY RECRUITMENT TIPS: 

  • BE YOURSELF.  This is the most important thing to remember.  Don’t change who you are just to fit into a house.  Every house is different and offers something unique.  Not every house is going to be for you.  Stick to your gut and you’ll find that place.
  • Dress to impress.  You want to put your best foot forward.  You only have a small amount of time to make an impression on the houses.  You don’t have to have the most expensive designer outfits, just put effort into your appearance.  Think of it like an interview.
  • It’s okay to be wrong through the process.  I was.  I’ll be honest.  I had my heart set on another house the entire week and I had put Alpha Xi Delta on the back burner.  On Thursday, my top house dropped me and I was devastated.  But I stuck with it and gave it a try…. which leads me to my next tip
  • Stick with it and give it a chance.  I was going to drop recruitment and say goodbye to the greek life forever.  But I stuck with it and I’m so glad I did.  I had no idea that Alpha Xi was the house for me, but I truly can’t picture myself in any other house {even my top house from recruitment}.  Everything happens for a reason.  Never forget that.
  • It’s okay if greek life isn’t for you.  It isn’t for everyone and you may realize that during recruitment.  Just remember that you will still have met amazing people during the week that you can see outside of recruitment.  And just because someone is in a house doesn’t mean you can’t be friends still.
  • Open up and don’t be afraid to say you want to be at a house.  They love to hear this! This lets them know you have a real interest in their house {on that note though, don’t tell them that if you don’t mean it}.
  • Try to get to know other girls going through recruitment.  You all don’t know what to expect and are all starting new.  This is the perfect opportunity to make new friends that will last a lifetime.  I still have friends from my group that joined other houses and we still keep in touch to this day.
  • After you join a house, still stick with it.  I will admit that I have had times where I thought about dropping or was wondering if it was for me. Especially the first year you still don’t know everyone and all you can think is, how can I just become best friends with people I just met?! Trust me, I felt that way.  But it takes time to get to know each other.  It will happen.
  • Make an effort to get to know people.  Especially if you are unable to live in the sorority your first year, put in the effort to go to the house or spend time with your new sisters.  You make the sorority what you want it to be:  if you put in the time and try to get to know people, you will have a more fun and positive experience.

WHAT TO EXPECT WITH GREEK LIFE:

  • Expect to find your future bridesmaids.
  • Expect LOTS of pics and tons of sorority poses {I promise they’re fun and not just cliche}
  • Speaking of poses, welcome to the sorority squat
  • Expect that people do party, but know you don’t ever have to do anything you don’t want to
  • Expect to be SPOILED by your big sister in the house {click here to see the crafts I made for my future little}
  • You will meet a ton of people {not only in your house but on campus}
  • Enjoy having a place you can call home away from home
  • Welcome to wearing your letters and gaining sisters from all around the country
  • Fraternities do NOT like to be called “frats”
  • Sororities do NOT haze you, if anything you get spoiled! {PROMISE!}
  • Academics and involvement outside the sorority are important to us!
  • WELCOME TO COLLEGE, some of the best days of your life!

 

I know that this was a lot to read and I probably rambled a lot.  It’s hard to explain this process and truly explain what it means to me.  No matter what you decide to do in your college experience, be positive, have fun, and enjoy it! Hopefully this was helpful {I know I had no idea what to expect and I constantly searched for posts like this when I was going through}.  If you found this post helpful, it would mean so much to me if you shared it with others so they too can read it 🙂

{Disclaimer:  Every university does things a little bit different.  My advice is to go to your universities website and see the tips and process they have written for you}

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6 Comments

  • Reply
    Yasmin
    September 1, 2014 at 8:15 pm

    Speaking of “frats” or the fraternity boys, how is the party life. Is it like what is portrayed on the I’m Shmacked videos? I guess I’m kind of concerned with the fact that people could “roofie” drinks. Are the UNL parties that out of control? And how are the Fraternity boys? Are they like the dirty/party/ drunk stereotypes we all hear about? Or are they nice and kind, and could be good potential boyfriends? I love your blog so much and I can’t wait to hear more about sorority life! 🙂
    xoxo

    • Reply
      Marisa
      September 30, 2014 at 11:25 pm

      Sadly, I think no matter where you go (greek or not) there is always a possibility of being “roofied”. And there are are a lot of great people in the greek community, while some people may be “not so nice”, that doesn’t mean everyone in that house or greek system is. You definitely make what you want of it and you meet some amazing people along the way! Thank you so much, I love to have new followers :))
      xoxo, Marisa

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    Dannii @ Hungry Healthy Happy
    September 8, 2014 at 2:33 pm

    I am actually really jealous that you are in a sorority – I always wanted to be in one. Looks like so much fun.

    • Reply
      Marisa
      September 30, 2014 at 11:25 pm

      Thanks Dannii!

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    Emma @em-poweredwellness
    September 30, 2014 at 12:11 am

    I had such a love/hate relationship recruitment…I just graduated this spring and now I am seeing all the recruitment pictures popping up on my Instagram. I miss it so much! Enjoy it while you can 🙂

    • Reply
      Marisa
      September 30, 2014 at 11:26 pm

      I know how you feel! Thank you so much 🙂

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